Adaptive questions about what you actually did, not what you think you are. The result is probabilities with honest error bars. Never a verdict.

Last time life got to be too much, what did you actually do first?

• Went somewhere in my head — people talked to me and I answered on autopilot.
• Wanted someone to notice and come take care of it without me asking.
• Took charge hard — pushed, fought, made it happen by force.
• Worked the angles — figured out who to talk to and how to play it.
• Absorbed it. Kept carrying everything and made a joke about it.
• Got colder and more efficient. Locked it down and worked the checklist.
• None of these fits.